Many people will say, “well, if you become a person who changes people lives then you wouldn’t need to worried about those who takes the positive energy out of you.”Or “you have to be strong enough to not let those with negative energy affect you in anyway and help them.”
Help them? How can you help someone that can’t help themselves? How can you help someone that doesn’t see greatness in their future but, only see the bad. How can you help someone from being negative all the time?. How? . To be honest, the only thing you can do about a toxic person is pray for them, keep your distance or cut them off out of your life then move on.
I believe we’ve all dealt with someone, who is always negative about life and doesn’t want to do nothing about their lives. Although, I’m all for accepting everyone for who they are and I’m all for giving second chances but, let’s say you’re excited about something and it’s something that you’re super excited for, you can’t wait to announce it to the world nor you can’t wait to announce it to your friends & family or even a stranger but, as soon as you tell this person about your dreams, about what YOU want to do in life. This person becomes different, their reaction towards what you say becomes different and awkward. It is awkward because that feeling that you had when you were super excited when you spoke of your dreams turn into a downfall because at that moment you didn’t know what to say nor what to do because if one person isn’t excited about your visions/dreams then you’re not going to be excited about your dreams anymore.
Why do we do that to ourselves? We get excited about something but, feel discouraged or unmotivated because someone told us that we couldn’t believe in it. I never could understand why someone will say to someone that they can’t do something in THEIR lives because it doesn’t sound right or it doesn’t sound normal to them. umm, whats normal? I rather be abnormal than to be normal. Shout outs to all my abnormal people chasing after their dreams and my normal people too(y’all cool too lol). Everyone is cool …
I’ve had people in my life who pretend to be excited for me but, aren’t truly excited for me. I’ve had people who doubted me and are waiting for me to fail. So, you know what I do about those people, I let them be them and I live my LIFE. It wasn’t always like that because I always wanted to make people happy but, the truth is nothing you do will be good enough for anyone. So, why would I waste my time and energy on someone who doesn’t believe in me nor is helping me for my future. All you can do is try your best and be yourself. Those who will support you, will support you and those who doesn’t support you, oh well. That is okay because not everyone is suppose to support you but, you don’t deserve to be told that you can’t dream, when yes you CAN dream about anything you want too.
When you surround yourself with negative people, don’t expect a parade….
Don’t expect someone who is negative all the time to support you because you’re making a difference in your life and they’re not making any changes in their lives. Never feel bad for living your life and chasing your dreams.
When you surround yourself with toxic people, you’re holding on to something that you’re afraid to let go….
Let’s say you’re in a relationship or a friendship and you’re talking about your dreams – how it’ll be like in ten years , long term goals, short term goals, & what you want to do in life but, the person you’re with or your friend doesn’t want to hear all that great stuff but, instead they only want to talk about what they want to talk about or they start to laugh about it and look at you like you’re crazy because you’ve said something that’s not important to life.
You want to change your life for the better but, they want to stay the same. So, what do you do? You’re not going to break up with him or her because they have no dreams or end the friendships because they’re negative all the time and making it all about them. You’ll help them – right ? But, it goes back to my first question – why help someone that doesn’t help themselves? And I’m not saying give up on them because you should help someone close to you as best as you can. However, the truth is you can’t help someone if they can’t help themselves. What you can do is pray for those who “believe” that staying the same is the best way to go in life.
And that’s what you need to do, let go of anyone that is not supportive of you, let go of anyone that isn’t helping you to get where you need to go in life and let go of anyone that tries to tell you, you can’t do anything because sweetheart YES, YOU CAN DO ANYTHING THAT YOU WANT TO DO. You can do anything that you set your mind too. Point. Blank & period.
Whoever told you no , tell them yes. So, let go and start chasing what you believe is right for you. I believe everyone can succeed and until you realize that you’re not living based by others opinions then you’ll start to live your LIFE.
For those who are afraid to chase after your dreams/visions because of others. Don’t let fear distract you from dreaming or chasing after the dreams that God has for you plus don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t chase your dreams because it sounds “impossible” to them. DON’T follow the footsteps of others that doesn’t want to do anything but, talk negative and less positive.
YOU CAN DO IT !!!! surround yourself with positive people, surround yourself with those who believe in you and surround yourself with those who sees the best in you…
Comment below. Do you believe that if you surround yourself with toxic people that you wouldn’t be able to chase after your dreams?…. there’s no right or wrong answer- I respect everyone’s perspective..
I have zero tolerance for negative people in my life. You don’t have to do back flips for me when I’m celebrating something but yo rain on my parade and happiness?? Red flag. Major sign of insecurity and selfishness. I definitely believe that we are products of our environment and if we’re surrounded by negativity that’s what we’ll produce. Sis this post was so REAL! Keep writing! ❤️
“If we’re surrounded by negativity that’s what we’ll produce.” >>>>> and that is a fact cause you can’t get a lot done in life, if you’re surround by those who only wants to just be negative all the time but,awww – I appreciate you taking your time reading, thank you❤️
This is so true! You can’t always expect people to be happy for you and one thing I had to teach myself is to STOP living for other people’s approval! You can’t surround yourself around people who do not have the same spirit as you do. Negative people bring negative energy and a negative mentality, and you can never achieve your goals with that kind of energy around. Love the post!
You better speak that truth girl !!!!!! And my point exactly. You can never get things done if you’re surround by those who doesn’t care about life nor speak nothing but negativity. So, walk away from that ….. thank you reading – I appreciate it ❤️.
Listen! If you ain’t preaching to the choir! Lol
You’re right though, some people aren’t meant to stay in your life, especially the negative ones. And you have to do what’s best for you & cut them off.
Great post sister! Love this. Love you! 💕
For real! you can’t surround yourself with negative people and expect something positive to happen. in reality, no one can hold you back from chasing your dreams except you. Thank you sis for reading, as always I appreciate you .. i love you more 🙂